Letter to Annie Fox

“Can you help me write the letter to Annie Fox at http://anniefox.com/ NOW please?” demanded Sprite “I asked you to help me do that a couple of weeks ago!“
“OK, what do you want to write?”
“Just tell her all that mean stuff the queen bee girls were saying to me, calling me Spit and Spite and ask her why kids are mean like that! Send her the blog entry you wrote about it.“ https://spritessite.wordpress.com/2009/11/17/spit-spite-sprite/
“OK,” I said “I’ll do that.
But in the meantime have a look at What Kids Want to Know about Bullying and Other Friendship Issues at http://ezinearticles.com/?What-Kids-Want-to-Know-About-Bullying-and-Other-Friendship-Issues&id=3723788
I think you will find that was one of one of the questions she answered.”

Also I will see whether we can get some of her books for you to read” http://www.anniefox.com/books/msc.html

Annie Fox has a series called Middle School Confidential. You can watch a video trailer at http://www.anniefox.com/books/msc.html and you can download a free leaders’ guide to the series at http://www.freespirit.com/files/OTHER/Leader’s_Guide_to_the_MS_Confidential_Series.pdf

As well as the Middle School Confidential series Annie Fox has written Too stressed to think and The Teen Survival Guide to Dating & Relating which is out of print now but can be downloaded FREE at http://www.anniefox.com/books/tsg.html

One thought on “Letter to Annie Fox

  1. Hi Sprite,

    You’ve asked a really important question. “Why are kids mean to each other?” Wow! I could write a book just on that one! Actually, in a way, I already have. If you haven’t yet read “Real Friends vs. The Other Kind” you should. In it you will definitely find some answers to the most common friendship issues.

    but you don’t have to read the book to realize that people (that includes adults, kids, tweens and teens) are incredibly complex! Sometimes we want to do the right thing and we do it. The “right” thing can include: being respectful to other people, being kind, being true to yourself, etc. And sometimes we’re not sure what the right thing is. Why? Because at that moment you might feel very scared or very angry or very embarrassed. Those intense emotions can make it really hard to think straight. And I don’t about you, but when I’m not thinking straight, I am much more likely to do or say something I later regret… something that’s rude and hurts someone’s feelings.

    Back to your question: some kids are mean to other kids because the adults in their lives haven’t been very nice to them. So those kids feel bad about themselves. When a person feels that way a lot of the time he or she lashes out at others. It’s not fair, and it doesn’t make it OK. No way! But it may help you understand where the “mean kid” is coming from.

    in those situations the best thing you can do is first to take some slow deep breaths to calm yourself down. Then calmly and maturely let people know (by your words and your behavior) that you don’t appreciate what they did. Do your best to put yourself back in control of your own behavior. Know that you deserve respect and show, by the choices you make at school and at home, that you always respect yourself.

    Oh, one more thing that can help in these annoying situations, is to remind yourself that you won’t be going to this school with these kids forever. Thank goodness! As you get older and move up in the grades the other kids get more mature and less interested in putting down other people.

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